My son borrowed my father’s life savings shortly before he died. My sister and I were each to have received half the money, but my son, who’s currently on benefits, has been unable to pay back the loan. My sister says she wants her share, and the executor won’t wind up the estate until it’s paid back. He says I should be trying to get it from my son. Surely it’s not my responsibility?
If your son has no money or assets it’s pointless pursuing the debt. It would appear you have reached a stalemate. I can’t see any reason for the executor to delay winding up the estate; if necessary the debt can be assigned to your sister in case there’s an improvement in your son’s fortunes.