My nephew died a year ago. To date nothing has been done about the grave and his widow, who lives away, doesn’t seem interested. His parents would like to have the grave properly finished at their own expense although they don’t want to fall out with the daughter-in-law. What’s the best way of dealing with this problem?
The parents will have to discuss the matter with their son’s wife if they want to stay on good terms with her. Since they’re offering to pay for the work I can’t really see that this would be a problem. Whether they could go ahead without the wife’s permission probably depends on who owns the lease to the plot.